We are all selfish, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not is a different story.  I do not think selfishness is necessarily a bad thing in and of itself; however, when you are malicious in your selfishness that’s when I think it becomes a bad character trait.  You have to be selfish sometimes, put your needs before those of others, especially when it means doing otherwise would compromise your health.  You may want to help everyone, but sometimes you just have to say “no”.  Yet, some people do not understand why you said “no”; they are personally affronted and take it as a sign that you do not care.  Perhaps you need to reconsider if those people are worthy of your help.

A caring and compassionate person should be capable of understanding why you said “no”, even without an explanation.  If they do not, then you need to understand that this person is being maliciously selfish and does not really care about your needs.  You cannot get all of your wants and needs fulfilled the instant you snap your fingers and that is a very wrong message to send to your children by giving them everything they want.  Life does not work that way.  Sometimes you will have to accept “no” and be content with that.  It’s when you feel entitled and think that “no” does not apply to you that you get into trouble.  We all know people who always want their needs met but never care to help others get their needs met, those people are maliciously selfish and you want to avoid them. You want to surround yourself by people who are considerate of your needs as well as their own. Treat others the way you want to be treated and you will be at peace.

SOURCE OF IMAGE:  SHDR